Monday, May 5, 2008

Dedicated to the haters~

I just received one of those emails from a dear friend - - where you're supposed to send it to 10 to 150 people in your life … I decided to re-post it as a blog… its just THAT GOOD~

Dedicated to the haters:

Hater by Maya Angelou

What Exactly Is A 'Hater'?

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.

They are very negative people to say the least.

Nothing is ever good enough!

When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters...

That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams,
because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed...

It's dangerous to be like somebody else...

If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right?

You never know what people have gone through to get what they have...

The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story...

If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!

We've all got some haters among us!

Some people envy you because you can:

Have a relationship with God

Light up a room when you walk in

Start your own business

Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn't about the right thing)

Raise your children without both parents being in the home

Haters can't stand to see you happy

Haters will never want to see you succeed

Haters never want you to get the victory

Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.

How do you handle your undercover haters?

You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)
2. Having a purpose to your life. Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation. Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when it's your time to leave this earth, you 'want' to be able to say, 'I've lived my life and fulfilled 'my' dreams...

Now I'm ready to go HOME! Maya Angelou

How do YOU handle haters? Are YOU a hater?

Ok – so I feel that if I put those questions out there… I have an obligation to answer it as well. YES I can admit that I have been guilty of hating on others… I ain't gonna lie… I used to hate on JLO… and quite honestly what I discovered that those skills that I liked to convince myself that she didn't possess are precisely the characteristics I wanted to have for myself…

What she has that I didn't have:

Confidence: First of all… she believes in her self… followed her dreams… lives with passion and gets shit DONE… PERIOD – we don't gotta like her… but hell yeah I respect her.

Success: she got that shit down… what ever she touches turns to gold… even if a film bombs… she still moves on… she's still making that paper.

Perseverance, motivation, faith, endurance, and strength - - ALL of that~ she has it, lives it, breathe it… and I wanted it for myself… so at some point in my life… I needed to stop talking shit about her… and doing what I was BORN to do.

How do I handle haters?

I don't know that I have an answer for that. I am very trusting… and am guilty of being a tad bit gullible. I believe that people step to me with the same love I bring and that's not always the case. Do I have people around me who are haters? Probably… my daughter can definitely answer that question better than me…. My glasses tend to be a little foggy… I'm getting better at deciphering who's good for me and who isn't.

How do YOU handle haters?
Are YOU a hater?


PS. And these days I'm hating on Junot Diaz… I want a Pulitzer~ I'm joking I ain't hating on the brother… but that's that standard of writing I'm aiming for~

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