“A relationship is not meant to be the joining at the hip of two emotional invalids. The purpose of a relationship is not for two incomplete people to become one, but rather for two complete people to join together… ”
“According to a Course in Miracles, the search for the perfect person to “fix” us is one of our biggest psychic wounds, and one of the ego’s most powerful delusions.”
“… our desire to find one who completes us is hurtful because it is delusional. It means we’re seeking salvation in separation rather than in oneness.”
We all want that perfect person. At least that’s what I want to believe. That we collectively all want the same thing someone we can love and someone who will love us back.
THE PERFECT MATCH!
I can’t tell you the many relationships and people who have entered my life who have felt PERFECT for me. They have felt like “THE ONE.”
If you’re following this blog then you know I’m reading A Return To love, the chapter that I’m on today is, Part II Practice, Chapter 6 on Relationships. This is precisely where I stopped reading the book in March of 2009. There were things in this chapter that I wasn’t ready to look at. I certainly didn’t want to hear it—because I believed I knew what I was doing. And all my choices were correct. That’s what I tried to convince myself about.
Something told me that it was time for me to delve back in and explore some themes in my life that I seem to continue to get wrong. There are things I’ve been ignoring.
So today I am re-visiting… looking at things with clear eyes and trying to understand what it is about these relationships that have felt perfect but have left me or ended… what was it that I expected or hoped to see in my potential partnership. What was it that I believed they could give me? What is it that I believed I needed from them to become a complete person?
Today I am forcing myself to face the truth of all of it…
“Although we may not know it consciously, our search is often for someone who has what we think we don’t have.”
“A relationship is not meant to be the joining at the hip of two emotional invalids. The purpose of a relationship is not for two incomplete people to become one, but rather for two complete people to join together… ”
Marianne talks about two kinds of relationships the “holy relationship” and the “ego relationship.”
“In the holy relationship, we don’t seek to change someone, but rather to see how beautiful they already are.”
“… that we might learn how to love others more purely. We love purely when we release other people to be who they are.”
Today I am learning how to be in more HOLY relationships and am allowing people to be who they are~ Ache~
Quotes are from: A Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson
Peace, light and LOVE~
ALWAYS Alicia
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